What's With These Balky Horse-Husbands?
With horses, we know that the first step in changing vexing behavior is to learn the reason why the behavior's occurring in the first place. If the same is true of humans--and in this case, I'm talking about horse-husbands--then I could use your input on the following:
Why do some of our beloved horse-husbands have such a big problem with paying others to do farm-related projects they theoretically COULD do themselves, but in reality don't have time for? Why the balkiness over hiring someone ELSE to run the posthole digger...to paint the barn...to repair a sagging stall ceiling...to replace a leaking barn faucet...to fertilize the pasture...etc., etc., etc.?
If you know the answer to this, please just pretend that you're the John Lyons/Clinton Anderson/Pat Parelli/Chris Cox/name-horse-clinician-of-your-choice of horse-husband consultants, and that I'm the eager-earred newbie awaiting your words of wisdom. Explain it to me like I'm a 6-year-old. Help me see things from the balky one's point of view.
I've already asked my mother. And she said she can't figure it out, either.
posted by Juli Thorson @ 1:50 PM
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7 Comments:
It is pretty easy - they are men. HA
I have found that it is a lot less painful and gets done a lot faster if you just do it yourself.
I think they just don't get it. Read my husband's post "I'm dad and I don't get it" You'll see what I mean!
Yes, it is a lot faster if you do it yourself. My husband isn't horsey at all, but atleast he doesn't badger me about my horse-loving ways. Sometimes he does try and after much headache, we end up calling in a professional anyway. He works a 12 hour Continental Shift, so I'm not too hard on him. Like your New Year's blog, my husband already is "as is". My ace in the hole is my teenage son, who is "in training" He has been moved up to the busier end of my barn! A show of amazement at the strength and endurance of his youth, the building of muscle and physique and gratitude for his efforts, goes a long way to puffing him up right on top of any job!
My husband would rather "eat dirt" than do anything having to do with horses. He doesn't even want to try "to get it". My daughter and I still love our horses tho.
From the male perspective, we don't get it? or, we don't get it RIGHT! Sometimes it gets a tad annoying when a chore gets done, to the EXACT spec's my horsewife gives me, just to be told, "That's NOT how I wanted it done!" If I was someone hired, I'd smile at you and either wait for you to fire me or do it again and bill you for additional time. As a hubbie, I'm lucky to get a cold dinner!
I can sum this problem up in one word -
Ego.
It goes hand in hand with testosterone. I love it - it can be used to our advantage if we're careful...
I'm a horse-husband, but I must say I'm more than happy to pay somebody to do it right the first time. If I did it, I'd...
a. injure myself
b. damage whatever materials I'd bought
c. misread the instructions
d. have to hire somebody to come clean up the mess and do it right anyway.
Since I'm eventually going to get to choice 'd' anyway, why not start out with it. I'll work an extra hour of overtime and pay somebody who knows what they're doing.
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